Category: Love & Marriage

I have a theory about Valentine’s Day. Now, don’t get all offended and whatnot if you don’t agree. After all, I said it’s a theory, not a fact.

I think the people who take Valentine’s Day all seriously are the ones who lack the love and passion they deserve to feel every day. So they need this day once a year to force their loved one to pay extra attention to them and give them the affection they crave.

Whereas those of us who feel we get that type of fulfillment every day don’t care so much about the holiday. That’s not to say we won’t exchange cards and cutesy little presents, but it won’t be about expressing our undying love for one another (that’s best left to an anniversary).

Here’s an example taken from personal experience. When I was dating this guy who (looking back) didn’t like me as much as I liked him, I was really excited about Sweetest Day because I was hoping he’d express how much he cared for me and it would bring us closer together. Whereas now that I’m with Joe, and I’m secure in our relationship and our feelings for one another, I don’t really pin my hopes on one or two days throughout the year. In fact, I even forgot Sweetest Day completely one year!

So that’s my theory in a nutshell. And honestly, I think those of you who do pin your hopes on this one day will come to realize that you deserve better. Your man/woman should be showing you love and affection EVERY day. Don’t accept anything but the best, ok? Because life is too short to lack happiness, fun, and true love.

On the way home from the grocery store today, we were waiting in the left turn lane when a truck turned in front of us. On the side it said “Now air ride equipped”. I said, “Whatever that means”, and Joe replied, “Yea, I didn’t get it either”. I replied, “Do you even know what I’m taking about?” He said, “Yea, you were talking about what it said on the side of that truck.” That is just too funny because we both noticed the same thing and he knew what I was talking about. That happens all the time with us too. It’s going to get to the point where all you’ll hear out of us is “Yep, I agree” and “No, I don’t think so”. There won’t be any point in real conversation since we can apparently read each other’s minds now. :)

Sometimes I’ll be at work just plugging away at what I do every day when I’ll glance at the photo of Joe I have on my desk and I’ll start to day-dream. I’ll start thinking about when we first started seeing each other – our first date, our first kiss, and the first time he said “I love you”. Then I start thinking about our future – us getting married, buying a house, growing old together. I’ll think of how happy he makes me, how much I love him, how perfect he is for me in every way, and how much I can’t wait to see him again. I’m still amazed, almost three years later, how lucky I am to have him in my life. So for no other reason but because, I wanted to share that with you all.

I love you, Joe, always and forever, with all my heart and soul.